- The Canadian National Institute for the Blind
- Community Living Ontario
- Niagara Deaf and Hard of Hearing Association
- Niagara Children's Center
- Lake Joseph Camp for the Blind
- Lions McIinnes House
- McMaster Children's Hospital
- Canadian Deaf-Blind Association (Sensity)
Monday, 22 November 2021
Exceptional Beyond Expectations; Deaf and Blind, and Living with Emanuel Syndrome
Friday, 5 November 2021
Self-Care: By Nahani Rose
Self-Care: what it is and why we need it.
A few years ago, when I was battling family stuff, I learnt a valuable lesson from a supervisor I had, working the group homes in my area.
It’s a simple concept but many of us do not know how to do it. When you are a caregiver it is so easy to forget yourself. This is why my ‘’family stuff’’ happened when it did. I didn’t know how to flip the switch. And, focus on me, too. So, I was burnt out.
Self-Care
Definition: Anything you can do for yourself that makes you feel good.
Wait, what?
I am allowed to do this? Lol. I really thought life was all about looking after others!
What helps us feel good?
Self-care is all about feeling good! We all deserve this. When you get haters hating you, it is detrimental to survival. When you have Covid happening, this is also detrimental to survival.
Good hygiene, especially, is so important but hard to learn at times. There are resources for people out there.
Having more than just our basic needs met.
Don’t always put others first, put yourself first! There really is truth in this; if you are not 'together', everyone around you will struggle. It’s important to have balance. I gave to get because that is all I knew. Love was conditional.
Self-care comes from a basic nursing concept that I learned as a Health Care Aide when younger. Everyone needs to have their basic needs met. When we don’t have needs met, that’s when things can go a bit awry, we develop poor coping mechanisms and things like OCD to help us achieve what we are missing.
Here is a chart of Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs. It is a guide for anyone.
-By Nahani Rose
Disclaimer:
What I share here for this website is based on my own experiences, thoughts and feelings as a person with 22q11. My purpose in sharing is to help those who may be just learning, and have young ones, and may feel overwhelmed. I know what has and hasn’t worked for me, and I want to help those who do feel overwhelmed, feel less overwhelmed. This does not mean my suggestions ‘’will work for you,’’ but, they are suggestions, and I hope that if they do work, YAY! My hardship will help those not have the same experiences as I have. I am not a doctor, psychologist, nurse or other practitioner.
Monday, 11 October 2021
Celebrate what makes you unique!
It is very important is to not stress and fret so much ‘’about the condition.’’ Celebrate the different qualities as a person that are revealed. Sometimes things don’t show up until a later time, this is okay! We all grow and learn things about ourselves as we age.
For your own sanity, and the individual, accept where they are at, and love them for who they are, and the uniqueness that they have. It is hard enough being an outsider in places, when it’s within your family it is even harder.
Find ways to get past differences, agree to disagree, let it go, move on. Strife just adds to anxiety, and anxiety to strife It is especially hard now during Covid. Find ways to celebrate you or your child’s uniqueness and help them not to feel down about themselves. We are ALL Different in our own way. Life really isn’t all about being ‘’cool’’ to other people. I was a people pleaser most of my adult life, and am still unlearning this in some areas, old habits die hard. Don’t worry about what others think, but do have a sense of standard that will help attract the right kinds of people to you. No, this is not about ‘’the law of attraction.’’ Just having self-confidence and having an I don’t give up easy attitude.
Having proper support, patience and feeling loved no matter what the different ‘’qualities’’ are, is so important. Depending on where people are at, learning different skills here or there, learning life skills can be a challenging thing. It cannot be done without proper support in place. If one is expected to just learn on their own or know things they are just supposed to know - how fair is that?
We are all equal beings and deserve to be treated as such. The same rights, the same needs the same feelings and needing to be accepted for who we are.
Written by:
Nahani Rose
September 30/2021
Disclaimer:
What I share here for this website is based on my own experiences, thoughts and feelings as a person with 22q11. My purpose in sharing is to help those who may be just learning, and have young ones, and may feel overwhelmed. I know what has and hasn’t worked for me, and I want to help those who do feel overwhelmed, feel less overwhelmed. This does not mean my suggestions ‘’will work for you,’’ but, they are suggestions, and I hope that if they do work, YAY! My hardship will help those not have the same experiences as I have. I am not a doctor, psychologist, nurse or other practitioner.
Tuesday, 31 August 2021
My journey with 22q11/ADHD - Nahani Rose
My name is Nahani Johnson. I am 45 years old and have 22q11/ADULT ADHD. Up until recently, I struggled reading. I could read, but if there was a ‘’due’’ date on a book, I usually couldn’t finish it in time. This is mostly because of ADHD. The medication Strattera (for ADHD) has changed so much for me.
Rewinding a bit, I was a shy, sad, and VERY introverted child. I didn’t understand why I was the way I was... I was bullied very much in my elementary school after I was held back in grade 5, and it continued into Junior High. High School was not as much but it was still happening.
I felt a lot of self-hate, shame, and misunderstanding about myself. I was also very depressed and very lonely. I really just didn’t understand why I had so many ‘’issues.’’ Having s-curve scoliosis, low muscle tone and a small hole in my heart- EVERYTHING was difficult for me. I got tired very easily.
I started smoking when I was in Junior high,(boredom & other reasons) and quit officially when my daughter was two! It was an off-and-on thing, and I smoked more heavily when younger, than as I got older. The program Quitcore in Rimbey really helped me. My daughter really helps motivate me in every goal I have.
I am finally in a good place where I can share my experience, my struggles, and my successes. I have family that is supportive, but I also have my own family friends, church friends and other friends that I call on when in need. I had to get back to Red Deer, (from Rimbey, Alberta) because of the general atmosphere and friendliness and acceptance of people with disabilities. The support that is here for disabilities is amazing. As I have grown into my mid-40’s, my life is re-starting again. I am finally figuring out who I am in different areas.
I am more and more proud of myself every day! That dark cloud that was around me as a child is now gone, and I can move forward- not only for me but for my daughter. The key to surviving & conquering 22q11- I feel is knowing your SUPPORT. Doing what you love, your spark-joy. You can never have too much support. Covid has helped me to come out of my shell even more. I have learnt what I like in different areas, and am no longer settling for less than myself or my daughter deserve.
Sunday, 27 June 2021
C22C Founder's new book featured for ThinkGenetic.com Bookclub
Rare Chromosome Disorder Awareness Day Book Spotlight: “Raising the Goddess of Spring” by Stephanie Rese: June 24, 2021.
All proceeds from the sale of this book support C22C activities.
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